Rejection

Being undergraduates and students in the university exposes us to a lot of happenings around us. We react and act based on the strong emotions we feel. At times we find ourselves thrust upon certain experiences, unleashing on people and being unleashed upon certain emotions. Ranging from Love, hatred, anger, betrayal, obsession among others. But the emotions we are here to discuss is the feeling associated with REJECTION.

Rejection is a bitch. That's the only statement i can think of that perfectly qualifies it. You can qualify it your own way.

In our passage through life, we are expected to face rejection one way or the other. It is an inevitable and undisputable fact of life. No matter what you tell yourself or how you tell it to yourself, if you are rejected, no matter the reason, you must sulk. How long you do that is another question you will answer yourself.

We know that rejection really hurts, but they can also inflict damage to our psychological well-being that goes well beyond mere emotional pain. Here are known facts that describe the various effects rejection has on our emotions, thinking, and behavior.
Let’s begin by examining why rejection hurts as much as it does:

The technique for measuring brain activities called Functional Magnetic Resonace Imaging (FMRI) shows that the same areas of the brain become activated when we experience rejection as when we experience physical pain. This is why rejection hurts so much (neurologically speaking).
The emotional ache you feel on being rejected particularly in relationship is similar to that of physical pain. When we relieve such painful memory, it seems to hurt much more than physical pain itself.

Some people are so used to rejection that it hardly pains them at all. They have developed  a thick skin for it and what I consider a shock absorber to cool down the pain. You break their heart, to see in the next few days they are out again smiling and eyeing the next person.

In some it creates the surges of anger and aggression. Some don't seem to take rejection well. Fear those. You are in for it if you mess with them. It's either they beat you not even black and blue, but orange and purple, or they stalk you. Pray they don't unleash the aggression you triggered by going on a killing spree or inflicting pain on your friends.
Pray harder your testicles are not severed or hot water or acid poured on you or your house and cars set ablaze

Some I refer to as idiotic few tend to internalise the anger and go ahead to inflict self harm on themselves as coping mechanism that may lead to serious health issues. They even contemplate suicide. They are big time crazy to me.

Your academics is not exempted. It takes its toil there too. Your ability to concentrate on your studies is affected. No matter how detached a person you are and how you are able to separate your emotions from your books, you will still feel your thought slightly drifting away, recalling how you were dumped or turned down. Not healthy for studying at all.

Finally you will agree with me that rejection shatters our self esteem. You begin to question yourself. 'Am I not good enough'. 'Maybe its my fault', 'its like I deserved it'. 'I brought it upon myself' and on and on you go
Imagine when you approach a person with your swag or catwalk just to have that person dissect all your flaws at a go. Na die be that. You can kid yourself you don't give a damn. Story!. The 'damn' you give is extremely high. No matter who you are, your self esteem must definitely reduce at least a notch

We pass through the university, not only for the sake of acquiring academic knowledge but also practical reasoning as to how to handle each situation thrust upon our way with diplomacy. The Igbo name for university is Mahadum (know it all)

You are a guy or a girl, you want to end a relationship or turn down the advances of the opposite sex. There are a thousand and one arts you can master for doing it without looking down on the person, being rude, insulting, annoying and arrogant about it. If you don't know, a good place to start is with euphemism.
If you plan on doing otherwise, just pray the only persons you try it on are those like me that will go inside withdrawn for a couple of days. If you try it on other set of persons i mentioned, pray your second name is Miracle. Because you will need the grace of God to come out of it unscarred

Also, the sign of maturity, education and what differentiates you from every other person who may display primitive characteristics, is your ability to take tough things that comes your way in strides.
He or she broke your heart,dumped you, rejected your advances,.shattered your ego, lowered your self esteem and the likes. Calmly do yourself the favour of walking out with your self respect intact

The best thing you can do after such experience is to discuss it over with your friends. I bet they must definitely laugh at you, tease you, but you might also see them discussing about their own experience and encounters. Making you understand you are not the only one that has been there nor will you be the last to be there. Such discussion really goes a long way to making you feel better.

Having read all these, i have one advice to offer.
Rejection sucks, your ability to overcome it and move on makes you a bigger boy or girl. Be wise

Article by Chukwuma Udoka Prince